Hi! Hello, how are ya?
Wow, it has almost been 6 months since I wrote my last blog post, its crazy how fast time flies.. to say I have missed writing would definitely be an understatement to say the least. I had a little bit of writers block during this time that I have been away – a lot has happened in my personal life and I think I just needed time to process and accept the changes.
One thing I have come to realize is – change is inevitable, I mean obviously right? But its a lot easier to say then to actually accept. I don’t know if its just me, but I have never really been a fan of change. After a while of having the same routine, I get into my own little comfort zone and think things will be stay that way. Change has always been something I have had trouble dealing with but I have learned that I just need to accept it and continue to move on. I have always been very optimistic and ambitious so it really doesn’t make too much sense why I would not adapt well to change, but I am a strange person and sometimes I don’t always make sense. Now that I am in my new little groove and adjusted, I thought now is a better time than ever to share some updates that have gone on in my life since summer time and to share things I have learned along the way. And what better time to do than now, being in quarantine lol. 😅
I Moved Out
I officially moved out of my parents house and into my first apartment at the end of June 2019! I had this goal that I wanted to be living on my own by the time I turned 25, I wasn’t too sure if I would make happen but I actually achieved it! Moving out and becoming a full and functioning adult has been a little tougher than I ever expected. I have always been very good with money and saving money but let me tell you – once you move out there are a lot of expenses that you have to take into consideration and a lot of adjustments you have to make. When I was living at home, all I was paying for was gas and my own personal purchases. When I moved out I had agreed with my parents to start paying everything myself – rent, gas, car insurance, phone bill, car payment, etc. This was a huge adjustment for me because I was fortunate enough to not have to pay any bills while going to school and even after graduation. It definitely has not been easy but I have been adapting and making it work. A piece of advice I would offer those still living at home – save your money for as long as you can! I still live in the same city as my parents, and not too far away from them either but now looking back on it, I am not too sure why I was in such a rush to be out of the house and living on my own. Once I have my mind made up however, I am set on my ways and sticking to it – that’s the stubborn side of me lol. Needless to say, I have to be more strategic with how I am spending my money and what I am spending it on. Needless to say, blogging became a lot harder and having the motivation to continue with it was a tough decision because I was not shopping as much and felt I didn’t really have much to share with y’all! This is the reality of gaining independence in your young adult life though, so I would rather keep it real with y’all then try to pretend that I am living this lavish lifestyle. I have decided to keep blogging but the content I share will probably change a little bit.
I Became Single
This is finally something I have come to accept and it has not been easy. When you meet someone who checks all your boxes, you start thinking of this future with them and want to build/grow a life with them. The reality of this though is sometimes things just aren’t meant to work out the way we would like them to. I think the hardest thing about this was that the relationship didn’t end badly so it was hard to separate myself from the relationship. Spending over a year with someone is a lot of time and its a big adjustment to go from seeing/talking to someone everyday to not. Having a strong support system is something that truly helped me throughout these months and just allowing myself to feel the emotions and process everything as it came. Breakups are never easy and I don’t think they ever will be, but the good news is that in time – things do get better and you do get stronger. Turning to my support system and music really helped me push past the heartbreak.
I Turned 25
I couldn’t believe it – I had tried to brace myself for this for months but it came a lot faster than I imagined. Just hearing the numbers 25 was mind-blowing to me because I literally remember just turning 21. The years go so much faster once you hit your 20’s. Reaching a quarter of a lifetime was scary to think about at first, but once I really thought about it – I realized I have achieved a lot within these past 25 years of life. I graduated high school, and graduated with two degrees – my associates and my bachelors, I moved out of state (twice), I started my career, and moved out. I have achieved so much and couldn’t help but be excited for the next five years and to think of all the new goals and things I would like to achieve. Time definitely goes by fast but you can’t escape it. We are going to get older, it is inevitable, so why not make the most of it!
I Got Pierced
Not 1, but 2! Since I was in my late teens, I wanted to get my nose pierced but since I was still living with my parents, I had to follow their rules and my parents didn’t want me to have any piercings or tattoos. Once I moved out, I was trying to think about what I wanted to do for my birthday and it finally dawned on me that I could get my nose piercing! The week after my birthday I went with my roommate to get my nose pierced and it surprisingly didn’t hurt at all! Of course, I still had to be respectful to my parents so I spoke to them about it before getting it and they weren’t crazy about it but understood that I lived on my own now and respected my wishes of what I wanted. The nose piercing was definitely an adjustment, especially when it came to blowing my nose but it healed pretty fast and it added a nice little accessory to my daily appearance. If y’all would like to know more about my nose piercing, feel free to reach out to me. One piece of advice is to make sure your work place approves of it before going and getting it! I made sure to ask my boss and looked up the company guidelines before getting it, just to be sure. Aside from the nose piercing, I also got my second ear hole pierced, this one was one I had wanted for a while but just never got around to getting it. So one day in November I was feeling spontaneous and just decided to go and get it done. I think why it took me so long to get it was because I didn’t know if it was better to get it done at Claire’s or if I should go to an actual tattoo shop. Pro Tip: After doing my research I realized that the best option was to get it done at a tattoo shop because at Claire’s you pay more for the actual jewelry than you do for the service. I have loved the new piercing additions and also plan to get more piercings in the future to build up my ear candy game.
The text I received from my mom the morning of my nose piercing
Right after I got my nose pierced
I Got A Puppy
Yes! I FINALLY got a puppy! If you actually know me in real life, you know how long I have been wanting this to happen! Since I was a little girl, I would beg my parents for a puppy for all the big occasions like my birthdays and Christmas’s and I never got one! My parents and family in general are not big dog people, much less animal people. For so long, I have always been the only animal lover in my family and I always told my mom once I moved out I would be getting a dog. Now, I didn’t think I would get a dog literally right when I moved out but things pretty much ended up happening that way.. I moved out in June, and I got my pup in February. One piece of advice I will give, is not to get a puppy in your first apartment ever! That is definitely a mistake that I made and didn’t realize until a little later.
But yes, I finally got a pup, her name is Ellie and she is a pure bred tri-colored Corgi. Not to be biased, but she is the prettiest little Corgi I have ever seen. Among being beautiful, she is also very sassy and stubborn but I would not change her for the world. Being a first time dog owner, there are many things I was unprepared for or unaware of, but this has definitely been a learning experience and I truly love being a dog-mom! If you are interested in getting a pup of your own, I would definitely recommend doing your research before getting one. I knew I had wanted a corgi for so long and did tons of research before finalizing on the decision to get her and I still feel like I was a bit unprepared. Ellie keeps my life interesting and I am entertained by her daily. My family has also adapted to her very well and are so loving and caring towards her, its truly the cutest thing.
We can’t predict what the future will bring but there will come changes, I’ve come to realize that change is the beauty of life. We are ever growing, ever evolving creatures and I have faith that life will continue to bring positive changes. I know the good may come with some bad times but I am blessed with the life I live and I would not change it for anything. For those of you who have followed along with my journey since 2015, thank you. I thank each and every one of my followers, readers, and friends for being patient with me and my inconsistency. I want to be as genuine and real as possible and the truth is that life is not always rainbows, butterflies, and sunflowers. Sometimes life is hard and rough but I have come to accept it all. I have experienced some really big milestones within these past 6 months and I don’t know if all of those would’ve been achievable if the experiences before didn’t shape me.
I hope everything going on with the world right now will slow down and we will be able to go back to normal again so I can go brunchin’ and share some more places with ya’ll! This will definitely be my outlet during this self quarantine time so I know for a fact I will be seeing y’all soon 🙂
Xoxo, Lori Allison
Below is one of my favorite songs from Jhene Aiko, one of my favorite artists. The first line in her song is change is inevitable therefore that is the title of this blog post.