The Benefits of Being Selfish In Your Twenty-Somethings

Your twenties are a time to be selfish. They are a time to do what makes you happy, make your own choices/decisions, and really find out who you are. A little over a year ago, I was a recent college graduate and boy, did life came at me fast. All of a sudden it was time to officially be an adult and figure out what the next step in my life would be.
Although graduating college was a huge accomplishment, I felt lost and like I really didn’t know who I was. I knew that I needed a change and for once in my life, I had all the time in the world. My time as an undergrad student was a busy one –  balancing being a full time student, working part time, being in multiple organizations while holding important positions in them, and trying to balance having a good social life and good family life. Now was a better time than ever to take a chance and do something that made me happy. Like I mentioned in a previous blog post – my junior year of college I decided to accept an internship with Disney in Orlando, Florida. My parents had taken my sister and I to Disney World many times when we were little. It was truly one of my happy places. I figured why not go one last time – have fun, make new memories and just enjoy the moment one last time before committing to full time adult life.

So, I did exactly that. I packed my stuff up and moved halfway across the U.S. to basically get my shit together, but at the same time – have fun, experience new things, and really live in the moment. Looking back at it now, moving back to Orlando is one of the best decisions I have ever made and my four months there really impacted the person I am today.

When I moved to Florida, I was definitely in a time of change – I had lost important people in my life through failed friendships/relationships, I was no longer a student for the first time in 16 years, and I had moved over 1,000 miles away from my family, my friends, and everything I knew. This move truly felt like a new beginning and a fresh start for me.

These are the benefits that I gained from being selfish in my twenties:

  • Finding myself – being on your own in a place that is not your home & where you have no family really teaches you to depend on yourself more than ever. My first few months in Florida I started to take chances, go on adventures, do things by myself and out of my comfort zone. In the midst of living in the moment, I was learning more and more about myself. I also was able to learn more about myself through strangers who became friends, it’s amazing what you can learn about yourself from other people. People who don’t know you that well, and people who do. I also realized how important it is to ask yourself questions – when you react certain ways, ask yourself why you reacted that way. Learn what things you love and what things you don’t love. Let your social interactions teach you about yourself and also turn to your family for advice and reflection.
  • Growth – it is very important for me as an individual, to be someone who is constantly evolving and flourishing. I am not the type of person who is okay staying in the same place forever and not taking on new opportunities or chances. There are going to be times and situations in life that will push you out of your comfort zone – do them anyways! Although you may not like going through those experiences, at the moment, you will eventually look back and notice how they have changed you – for the better. Be open minded and really try to learn from your experiences.
  • New friendships – during my time at Disney, I met so many people from all over the world and when I say all over the world –  I really mean it. I have friends here in the U.S. of course, spread out in different states – but I also have friends in different countries (Japan, New Zealand, Australia, England). I think it is so amazing to be given the opportunity to meet and form friendships with people from all around the world and also know that I have a friend to visit in those places. Meeting people from different countries is so amazing because I feel like it can be a learning experience such as with language barriers or having different cultural norms. I believe that cultural awareness is important and really opens your eyes about the way other people live and things they believe. At the end of the day, love and friendship is a common communication that everyone understands and forming new friendships is such a wonderful thing.
  • Reflection – moving somewhere new and not knowing many people(at first) means that you’ll spend a good amount of time alone: voluntarily or nonvoluntarily, it will happen. Spending time alone is very important – everybody needs alone time every once in a while, although not everyone likes being alone. When you are alone – you are able to reflect on previous experiences in life and can truly be alone with your thoughts. Although many of us try to be the best person we can be – we unfortunately aren’t always going to do or say the right things all the time. We are human and we are not perfect beings. You are going to lose friendships/relationships and we may hurt people we may have never had the intention of hurting.. things happen. As long as we can reflect on these situations, put things into perspective, and acknowledge our pasts – we still have the ability to change the outcome from what it previously was. It is important to reflect back on situations and feel the emotions again, whether they are good or bad and it is important to give yourself the ability to feel & be present. Forgive people for hurting you and forgive yourself from hurting other people. You cannot let past experiences eat away at you because they will hold you back from growing.

It’s crazy for me to think that in just four short months, I was able to rebuild myself and become a person I had always imagined I could be. Although being away from my family and not being able to see them everyday was tough, I feel like moving away was just what I needed. In January I moved back to Texas feeling happy, free, and confident in myself. I no longer felt scared of the unknown or lost because I knew that anywhere I ended up, I would be okay and that I was strong enough to handle anything that came my way.

Now a year later, I am honestly, living my best life, literally. I have a great job with an amazing organization, I am back in the love and care of my family, and I am overall in a really amazing place.

I encourage anybody who is feeling lost or unsure of their path in life to take a chance and don’t think twice about it. As cliché as it sounds, you only live once. Don’t you want to make it a happy and good life? Do what makes you happy or what makes you scared, just don’t be afraid to feel and take chances. The best things come when you least expect it, and usually have the best outcomes. You don’t have to move to a completely different state like me, start by doing little things like traveling and going on little trips to different places on your bucket list or get that dog you’ve always been wanting – the possibilities are endless.

Never be afraid to be selfish – not just in your twenties but in life because ultimately you know what is best for yourself.

I am ultimately grateful for you Disney ❤

Thanks for reading!

Xoxo, Lori Allison

Shellac vs. Dip, What Is Your Preference?

Since moving back from Florida, I started to frequently get my nails done again. I’m always up to try the new and upcoming trends when it comes to getting manicures and the hottest trend at the moment, seems to be dip powder.
I have heard many good things about dip, but I wanted to try it out for myself and see what my preference is, Shellac or Dip. A lot of my friends have asked my preference, since I get my nails done so often, so I thought I would test out both and find out the pros and cons.

Shellac

Shellac in Texas, is typically about $30-$35 at salons and is similar to gel nail polish but is 3 sets of polish (base coat, polish color, top coat) that typically can last about 2-3 weeks on your nails.

Pros:
Color options – I love that with shellac there are multiple color options to choose from, no matter what nail salon you go to. If you’re looking for a solid color you can go with that option or if you want to be bold and daring you can get cool effects on your nails such as mermaid, holographic, chrome, etc.
With the different effects, there usually is a up-charge but I think it is worth paying for because I love the compliments I get and I love to admire and obsess over them often.
Application – Shellac’s process involves a base coat, the color polish chosen, a UV lamp, and the top coat. The nail techs usually apply two coats of each polish in between applying the UV light to each coat. The process is very short and easy.
Longevity – When I get shellac on my natural nails, it lasts me about 3-4 weeks, which I think is great because whenever I paint my nails with normal nail polish, it only lasts on my nails about 1 week if anything. Although Shellac lasts about 3-4 weeks for me, it doesn’t mean that they remain looking as great as they did when I first got them done. If I let my nails grow that long with Shellac, most of the time I am in desperate need of a fill because my nails tend to grow pretty fast.
Removal – The removal process for shellac is very easy and can be done in a salon or at the comfort of your own home. If you go to a salon, most charge $5 to take off, which is very reasonable and I think is a faster process because the nail techs are so used to doing it and also have the right tools for it.

Cons:
UV Light – A big complaint on why I have heard people don’t like doing Shellac, is the UV light used to dry the polish. The UV lights can cause damage on your skin and fingers. One tip I recommend is to put water proof sun screen before going to my nail appointment, that way my skin is protected a little more than the UV lights beaming on my bare skin.
Peeling – Another complaint that I have about shellac is the fact that when my nails start growing out, the shellac coat on my nails can start to chip and therefore start to peel off the nail bed. When this happens, I notice that the part of my nail that’s peeling off, will get caught onto my clothes or other things and it leaves me no choice than to remove the shellac as a whole from my nails or to start peeling it off from my nail bed (which can cause damage to your nails if you’re not removing shellac the proper way).

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Shellac with Mermaid

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Process of Mermaid
White Shellac coats and then Pink Mermaid powder over

Shellac with Holographic

Dip

Dip, in Texas is normally about $40-$50 at salons but the price depends on if you are getting it on your natural nails or if you are getting acrylic, most salons also charge additionally if you are getting a French manicure since it is a longer process since you they have to use two different colors.

Pros:
Application – The application process for dip is very simple, easy, and fast. Unlike shellac, this process just involves a base coat, and then you dipping your finger nails into a container color dip of your choice multiple times until your nail is fully covered in the dip color and has the texture of an acrylic nail. Once it is shaped onto your nail then the nail technician adds a top coat and wipes away all the excess powder and you are good to go.
Longevity – I found that dip actually lasts a lot longer than shellac does, which is a great plus because you don’t have to get your nails done as often. Because the dip powder is like an acrylic nail on top of your real nail, it leaves your nail feeling hard and sturdy and it is very rare that you will break a nail with Dip on your fingernails.

Cons:
Color options – Although there are a decent amount of color options at salons, I was not very impressed with the different shade options. Of course the salons have the full rainbow spectrum (from red to purple) that is expected and the different colors in between but I didn’t find a lot of shade options in the colors I was interested, just one or two shades of each (but maybe I’m just picky).
Because dip is a powder, you also don’t have the option of getting mermaid, chrome, or holographic. It may be an option they are going to come out with later, but as of right now, they only have solid color options.
Removal – I was told by the salon that I got dip at, that the removal process of dip was the same as shellac. However, when I went to the salon I normally go to, to get mermaid/ holographic done at, they had to use the little drill to drill my nails down from the thickness of the acrylic and then I had to soak my hands in acetone for a good 15-20 minutes. I also found out after the fact, that the removal process is usually $5 more than the removal of shellac, so $10 for the removal. Although I know soaking your fingernails in acetone is the best way to take it off, I wasn’t a big fan of it because my fingers/fingernails got very hot, which wasn’t very comfortable and the dip got very gooey, which made for a very messy take off process.

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Dip nails

Verdict:

I naturally have long/strong nails, so I prefer getting a manicure on my natural nails rather than getting acrylic nails. Don’t get me wrong, I love the look of acrylic nails on other girls and love that you can play with the different lengths, but I like more of natural look and prefer the least amount of damage on my nails as possible. Neither Shellac or Dip are necessarily safe on your nails because they both aren’t natural nail coloring techniques, but I think they are both great if you are looking to have a longer lasting manicure and not wanting to worry about them chipping fast like normal nail polish.

Although, I loved how long Dip lasted on my nails, I just wasn’t too big of a fan of how unnaturally bulky my nails looked with it and also how hard the acrylic was over my nail. I think that Shellac looks more natural and keeps my nails from looking less fake/boxy. I also am a huge fan of getting different colors/effects on my nails and getting away from the traditional everyday colors such as red, pink, white, and black. I also enjoy the fact that Shellac is a little bit cheaper than Dip and even lasts close to the same time as Dip.

I would definitely recommend people to try both Shellac and Dip to see what their preference is because this post is solely based on my own thoughts, opinions, and preferences.

If you live in San Antonio, I get all my mermaid/chrome/holographic nails done at Emme’s Nail Spa at the Elian Resort, I definitely recommend them 100%! @emmenailspa on instagram

Thanks for reading!
If you have any questions feel free to ask and comment if you have any ideas about other things I should blog about.

You can keep in touch with my life by following me @ xoxoloriallison on Instagram.

Xoxo, Lori Allison ❤

Updates, xoxo

Hello Loves!

WOW! It has been such a long time since I have blogged, hopefully I haven’t been forgotten..

SO much has happened since my last post.. So let me catch you up on things.

I am officially a college graduate! YAY! Yes its true, as of May 2017 I officially became a college graduate. I still can’t believe that its already about to be a year, my how time flies!

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As many of you know, I completed an internship with Disney in Spring of 2016. Not many of you know, however, that I went back for another internship shortly after I graduated college. This Disney lover, just couldn’t get enough of Disney, so of course I had to go back to Florida for one last hurrah before becoming a full time adult (who is still a Disney fanatic). You can take the girl out of Disney, but you cant take Disney out of the girl 🙂
So – I completed the internship (had THE BEST 4 months of my life) and shortly after the New Year, I moved back to Texas, my most favorite state of all time & my home.

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Now I am living back in Texas, San Antonio but I hope to be moving out of San Antonio and to a new city in Texas very soon.
What have I been doing since I moved home, you ask? Oh you know, the post grad life: working, working, working (trying to save enough money to move out) and of course trying to find a full time job so I can be a full-time adult. As exciting as all of this may sound – something is still missing from my life – what possibly could it be?

Of course, I miss blogging and updating you all on my life, my outfits, and of course my shopping hauls. The good news out of all of this, is that xoxo, Lori Allison is coming back and I promise you all that I will be uploading content more regularly since I no longer have a crazy busy undergrad life (which I actually sometimes really miss). I guess I was good at being a busy body(?) but now I can put my energy into more exciting things like blogging again.

I am super excited to reconnect with you all and I can’t wait to hear from you all 🙂

 

As always, follow me on Instagram to keep up with my everyday life @ xoxoloriallison

Lori Allison ❤

Texas Pride, San Antonio Fashion

Texas is a great, big state with a lot to offer! Among the sites to see, food to eat, and events to attend, we also have a variety of styles! Today I’m pleased to share with you two fellow Texans that are also my fashion blogger friends. Diana is a blogger at The Neon Factor based in Houston, and Devoreaux is a blogger at The Prep Pursuit based in Dallas.

We each decided to share looks in landmark locations to our respective cities! Check out their amazing looks below!

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San Antonio is famous for its beautiful skyline, and there is no better place to go to see it than the Hays Street Bridge. The Hays Street Bridge has become very popular over the last few years. They host different events like yoga, bike riding, mixers, and make the perfect place for pictures of downtown San Antonio. Overalls have been around for as long as I can remember, and they aren’t going away anytime soon.  Denim isn’t usually included in my summer look-book because it’s so hot, but these denim overalls are an outfit for the summer time, especially with this Texas heat. I love this distressed style and love that they’re versatile.  You can wear them casual during the day or dress them up for the night. I paired the overalls with a black tank top and accessorized with a taupe fedora to block out the sun during the day. This is definitely a summer outfit to beat the Texas heat and still be trendy at the same time while exploring everything the city has to offer!

Overalls: H&M

Black Tank Crop Top: Urban Outfitters

Sandals: Aldo

Hat: Forever 21

Backpack: Forever 21

Necklace: Kendra Scott

Bracelets: Zelle Boutique, Lauren Nicole Boutique, Shira Melody Jewelry

 

Devoreaux in Dallas

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We each decided to share looks in landmark locations to our respective cities! Which is why you may recognize the Margaret Hunt Hill bridge in the background of my shots! Now it’s hot here in Dallas… And I don’t mean warm, I mean steaming hot! One of my favorite summer accessories is a parasol guard the flaming sun waves beating down. I love this dress, featuring a tropical palm tree print! It’s summery and vibrant, and makes me feel like I’m on a tropical location – even if I’m home here in Dallas!

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Dress: H&M

Heels: Michael Kors

Parasol: Paper Lantern Company

Necklace: J.Crew

Watch: Talley & Twine

Bracelet: Ettika

 

Diana in Houston

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In the heart of Houston’s downtown area you’ll find Buffalo Bayou Park. It’s a gorgeous park that people gather from around the city for their daily bike rides, exercise, or to just soak in some sun. The floral print of the skirt goes beautifully with the background. Houston gets extremely hot in the summer so the glass gets slightly dry but the flowers still bloom in the heat. And as I love bright bold colors I couldn’t help but add these fabulous metallic colors. I wear this jacket year round in different ways. Some nude cage sandals to finish the look and I’m off to enjoy the beautiful city of Houston.

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Jacket: Burberry

Tank: Club Monaco

Skirt: Bebe

Shoes: Burberry

Bag: Dior

What do you like to wear to show pride for your city? Tell me in a comment below!

Thanks for reading, follow me on Instagram at itsxoxoloriallison 🙂

xoxo, Lori Allison